Friday, 2 September 2016
How to cope with the internet when things go to shit
This post should probably be classed as a 'note to self' rather than advice to others, because believe me, I am in no position to advise others.
One thing I promised myself when I started my blog is that I would keep things real with my readers. I always find that lifestyle & fashion blogs have a theme of 'look how great my life is' or 'here's how you can have an awesome life like I have'.
No disrespect to these bloggers, I love what they do and I know that they work super hard but I kind of wish that more of them would let go of this faux-aspirational image that they convey to their followers.
But that's what social media is all about isn't it? It's claiming that you have the world's best boyfriend when you're constantly arguing behind closed doors. It's bragging about your new job so your old classmates can see how great you're doing.
It's the millennial version of keeping up with the Joneses and we're all guilty of it.
If you know me, you know that I have been made redundant recently and seeing my peers posting about traveling the world or their amazing new jobs has made it harder for me to cope with.
I know I shouldn't let it get to me but I can't help myself - I'm a sucker for punishment!
I was bullied in school and ever since, I've had this idea that I somehow had to prove myself to others. Social Media has only made this annoying trait even worse because it has made it so much easier for me to compare myself to others when I should be focusing my energy on myself.
I know what you're thinking, 'why don't you just ignore social media, Anna?' and as tempting as it is, I don't think that it's the answer.
The internet is still a great place to distract yourself from the bullshit of life and more importantly, it's a great place for people to open up and I think that is so important.
It's not a case of ditching the internet, it's a case of getting yourself to a point where you don't take it all too seriously and accepting that people have their own journey in life.
I know you've heard it all before; we only see half the story online, people have an online persona...blah blah blah but it's so fucking true!
Everyone has their fair share of shit that they have to deal with and guess what? They're not always going to hang out their dirty laundry online.
My life isn't perfect, your life isn't perfect...nobody's life is perfect, so stop comparing yourself to others!